Bride Excludes Sister from Wedding Party Over Concerns She Won’t Lose ‘Baby Weight’

A bride’s decision to exclude her older sister as a bridesmaid over weight concerns has resulted in a heavy emotional toll.

In a new post on the internet community forum Mumsnet, the bride’s sister asked users whether or not she’s being “unreasonable” for feeling “sad” that she’s being left out of the wedding party because she might not lose the weight she’s gained during her pregnancy in time.

“She said that she is worried that I won’t have lost my baby weight by the date of her wedding,” wrote the woman, who is currently 13 weeks pregnant but will be 10 months postpartum at the time of the ceremony.

The woman explained that the bride also argued that because she will be focusing on caring for her three children at the nuptials, she “won’t have the time” to fulfill her bridesmaid duties, which she says requires making “her the center of attention.” The expectant mother agreed this is “an excellent point” because her children “are very important,” but she still can’t help but take the bridesmaid role exclusion personally.

“I feel so bad about this,” she said.

To make matters worse, the news was delivered on Christmas Day. Learning that five friends were asked to be bridesmaids while she was not, was especially hurtful she said.

The woman explained that she “romanticized” the idea in her head because her sister was one of her bridesmaids and she “would have loved to be hers.”

Fellow Mumsnet users commented that the bride is being “unreasonable” and many individuals said that the bride’s reasoning for leaving her sister out of the wedding party is “mean.”

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Several people commented that not being asked to be a bridesmaid might be a “blessing” in disguise because the woman now doesn’t have to “fawn around” someone who seems “incredibly self-centered” and “shallow.”

“Sounds like there’s a bridezilla on the way. Just be grateful it won’t include you,” one person commented, with another agreeing, “Dodged a bullet there I reckon.”